Black people have overcome many obstacles over the years and still remain strong as a unit. Each couple below has shown us what a healthy, committed relationship looks like. They have defied the odds against them by successfully navigating through the difficult challenges and negative stereotypes that African Americans face within relationships.
Will and Jada Smith’s marriage is a prime example of how to successfully co-parent and survive the test of time. The two wed in 1997 and have been able to balance acting careers, parenting, and a marriage that keeps both of them happy. Stated in several previous interviews, they say the key to sustaining their blissful relationship is by not having a bunch of rules for one another. Continuously finding new ways to enjoy each other’s company was a big contributor too. Mrs. Smith had some advice for women struggling with being a part of a blended family and shared her thoughts on co-parenting and dealing with her stepson’s mother on a Facebook post:
“When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package…Period! If I didn’t want that…I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey…I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him…his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other… but we have learned to LOVE each other.”
Jay-Z and Beyoncé maintain relevance in the music industry and take on many other business ventures. Mr. and Mrs. Carter are pros at having great careers without allowing it to interfere in their marriage. Who says you can’t mix business with pleasure? Recently the dynamic duo combined their love for music and took their talents on a worldwide concert series, the “On the Run Tour.” Their respect of each other’s careers shows us all that achieving your goals is realistic while being married or in a serious relationship. You can still love your partner the proper way and focus on work. You don’t have to lose sight of your aspirations for love. A person who truly loves you won’t require you to do so in the first place.
Barack and Michelle Obama exemplify what being in a supportive relationship should be like. Michelle Obama supported her husband as he leads the nation, which I’m sure had its difficult times; especially being the first African Americans in office. Despite their status, the Obamas are like the typical working-class family, ensuring that their children are grounded and raised with proper morals and values. It took great courage to take on the simultaneous blessing and burden of being the first African American first family. But we must say, that they wore the huge responsibility with noted style, grace and humility.
All of these couples remind us that love conquers all. If you are willing to accept your partner for who they are, what they love, and consistently work at the relationship, then the two of you can live a rewarding life together.