When dating someone, we expect to get what we first saw but sometimes once the person becomes comfortable in the relationship; their appearance changes.
The important thing to remember in this situation is that beauty is truly only skin deep. Instead of being negative about their change in appearance, use it as a way to build a stronger bond with them. For example, if your woman has put on extra weight over the holiday season, don’t say hurtful statements about the way she looks. Instead go on a healthy eating diet with her, workout in the gym together, and remind her that you still think she is beautiful. When a person gains weight, they need extra support and encouragement to help them become healthy again.
If your partner has been slacking in the personal hygiene department, let them know that they need to groom themselves regularly. Treating your love to a spa day or offering to buy them a nice pair of shoes is a great reminder to put some effort in how they look. Don’t be afraid to say what you like or want either. Sometimes people forget and need an extra nudge.
As much as we would all like to think of our mate at any given time and say to ourselves “Sheesh I bet the whole world is jealous of how good my man or woman looks,” the reality is that nobody looks picture perfect all the time. You have to take the good, the bad, and the ugly! The point is to fall in love with someone who has a beautiful, mind, soul, and spirit, so when beauty fades you still have something concrete to hold on to. We all fall off our “A” game from time to time so help your lover when they do because I’m sure you would want them to stand by your side during your stages of “ugly duckling” too.